Who do you define as beautiful? Angelina Jolie? Paul Walker? Runway Models?
Why do you define beautiful the way you do? Do you follow society’s “rules”? Or do you look past the exterior and see the person, not the image?
This is a tough, tough world to grow up in. You’re constantly bombarded with images of “beauty”, products that will help you achieve this beauty and constant criticism for those who seemingly fall short of it.
No wonder we struggle with body image and self-confidence.
As a parent, I’ve always stressed the importance of making sure my son grows up with a strong sense of self, confidence and respect for people of all shapes and sizes. What I don’t do so well is model that behaviour in my own life. I’m lucky because he’s at an age where he doesn’t understand when I grab my “jiggle” and go “eeeeewwwww” or when I struggle to control a B.E.D. episode. He’s too young to understand, but not too young to mimic and there will come a day, very soon, that he will start to understand. What am I doing to prevent him from growing up with the same distorted images that I grew up with?
As a boy, I know he has a better chance of avoiding the pitfalls of self-hatred that I faced however, I think it is equally important that he respect others, not judge and always love the person, not the appearance.
These are tough lessons to teach, especially when I’m still in the early stages of learning them myself.