Lessons in Beautiful

What do you define as beautiful? Blue eyes? Long hair? Thin waist?

Who do you define as beautiful? Angelina Jolie? Paul Walker? Runway Models?

Why do you define beautiful the way you do? Do you follow society’s “rules”? Or do you look past the exterior and see the person, not the image?

This is a tough, tough world to grow up in. You’re constantly bombarded with images of “beauty”, products that will help you achieve this beauty and constant criticism for those who seemingly fall short of it.

No wonder we struggle with body image and self-confidence.

As a parent, I’ve always stressed the importance of making sure my son grows up with a strong sense of self, confidence and respect for people of all shapes and sizes. What I don’t do so well is model that behaviour in my own life. I’m lucky because he’s at an age where he doesn’t understand when I grab my “jiggle” and go “eeeeewwwww” or when I struggle to control a B.E.D. episode. He’s too young to understand, but not too young to mimic and there will come a day, very soon, that he will start to understand. What am I doing to prevent him from growing up with the same distorted images that I grew up with?

As a boy, I know he has a better chance of avoiding the pitfalls of self-hatred that I faced however, I think it is equally important that he respect others, not judge and always love the person, not the appearance.

These are tough lessons to teach, especially when I’m still in the early stages of learning them myself.

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Stephanie is a Canadian Mom of 3, Runner, Certified Functional Strength Coach (CFSC), Christ-follower and all around reeker of awesomeness. When she's not chasing after her kids, you can find her dreaming big dreams and bringing them to life.

4 Responses to Lessons in Beautiful

  1. I think as parents we all struggle with this to some degree. I am teaching Cole, my 11 year old son, self love as we speak. When he looks in the mirror, he sees a skinny boy with very thin hair (from the chemo) with darkened circles under his eyes. I see the most perfect child in the world with blue eyes that would cut open the darkness if he wanted them to and a smile that lights up the room… As far as other people, I am making a great effort to compliment people who wouldn’t normally be complimented and to teach him that beauty is all around us. It comes in SO many forms!


    • I think that is such an amazing attitude to have and example to set, not only for your son, but for other people (namely adults) as well. Beauty is such an overstated term that is so skewed in terms of meaning in our society that small lessons like that are so valuable to teach, and to learn.

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