I hear it a lot. Derailment of plans, goals, dreams, visions because that pesky little thing called “Life” has gotten in front of you and blocked your path. As a wife and mother juggling a rainbow of balls at any given time, I can definitely be a spokes person for the Life getting in the way foundation….but I don’t have time because…well you get it.
Right now, I’m juggling being a good mom, being a good employee, being a good wife, being a good entrepreneur and being a good blogger. All while maintaining a relatively functional level of sanity. There are days when I flow through as though nothing can stand in my way because I have my Super Woman tiara on, my Wonder Mom cape secured and my Everything else Woman boots on foot.
Then there are the days when my super suit is at the cleaners.
Those are the days when my clothes are mis-matched and questionably clean (I do make sure they pass the sniff test), my hair isn’t brushed, Fit Boy is screaming and clinging to my leg, hubby is nagging me to get stuff done and I’m tripping over all those colourful balls that I’m supposed to be juggling effortlessly.
Those are the days when the tears flow, the temper flares and my super self is no where to be found.
Life is a juggling act and when you factor in the curveballs it can throw at you, it’s sometimes a wonder we get anything done at all. Certainly in my life, there are days when my only accomplishment is getting out of bed and not showing up to work in my jammies (though I have left the house in my slippers on more than one occasion).
The thing to remember, and the thing I have to constantly remind myself of is that not every day is going to flow seamlessly. That’s just reality. Even the people you look at and admire for always having it “together” don’t always. Their kids have screamed in department stores, they’ve spilt coffee on themselves, they’ve forgone their workout now and then. Appearances can definitely be deceiving so anyone that says otherwise is not maintaining a functional level of sanity.
All we can do in life is our very best every day. Some days we’ll soar, other days we won’t even leave the landing strip. Try not to get down on yourself when you’re grounded. The skies might be much clearer in the morning.
So needed that one today, yuppers, that sums it up beautifully!
It’s taken me awhile, but I’ve finally given up my supermom cape:
1) My kids will never remember when they grow up if the house was clean or messy – they will remember whether I played with them or not.
2) My kids will never remember if my hair, nails, or clothes were perfect – again, they will remember if I played with them or not.
3) My kids will never remember if we ate gourmet meals everyday, they will remember that we had fun trying to cook together.
In my mind, my days flow a lot more seamlessly now that I no longer try to be supermom. Stress is perceived – it’s the difference between what you are doing, and what you want to do – the minute I started trying to enjoy what I was doing then things got a lot better.